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The Detachment Dilemma

June 23, 2022 by Marcus Leave a Comment

Detachment Dilemma

As I step back from social media, my intention (of late) has not been to impose a clean break (or secretly, is it…?). My goal instead is to take a more practical, intentional approach to its use. That is, to stop checking it a gazillion times a day, ignore all the cat and dog memes, and hopefully build meaningful connections and engage in more artful conversations.

Sometimes stepping back from social media feels like one of those lofty New Year’s resolutions I abandoned making years ago. The kind where the intention is good, but the execution abysmal. This time around, though, I’m better at not frequently checking social media because I deleted the apps from my phone (admittedly, I’m behind on responding to comments and DMs, but getting there). Do you ever post to Instagram from your laptop? Not the most user-friendly experience and it really kills any desire to log in! So, a two-hour period on Thursday mornings has become my dedicated social media time for the week. [Read more…] about The Detachment Dilemma

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Be. Here. Now

June 16, 2022 by Marcus Leave a Comment

be here now

It’s been a challenging few weeks…

In my early thirties, I ‘woke up to life.’ That is, I came to love myself and accept myself just as I am. I didn’t strive to meet, or care about, others’ expectations. I decided to live my life my way, and do what I love. And that also meant trying to, most of the time, maintain a positive attitude. It’s never about being happy all the time, or being like Teflon and not let anything stick to me. Because life happens – the good, the bad, the ugly – and we have to find ways to roll with it.

Yes, life happens… [Read more…] about Be. Here. Now

Filed Under: Writing Life Tagged With: be yourself, life lessons, live your best life, stay focused, writing life

These are Crazy Times

June 9, 2022 by Marcus 1 Comment

these are crazy times

These are crazy times. Yes, crazy because of how the COVID-19 pandemic upended lives, and in some ways is still wreaking havoc. Crazy because politics are more divisive, and ugly; and politicians more willing to divide than unite to win re-election. Crazy because, in 2022, you can still walk into a school or grocery store and kill randomly, and those in positions of power who can enact measures aimed at curbing gun violence still do nothing. Crazy, yes, because a madman wages an illegal war against Ukraine…and what is the world really doing to stop it?

And it doesn’t stop there. [Read more…] about These are Crazy Times

Filed Under: Writing Life Tagged With: digital minimalism, happiness, live your best life, social media

Reset: Cleaning Up My Inbox

June 2, 2022 by Marcus Leave a Comment

reset cleaning up my inbox

As a writer, I recognize the value and importance of a mailing list. It’s a great tool, when used effectively, that helps creators build an audience and engage with their followers. And I enjoy reading and responding to the messages I receive. Some people tell me that they liked one of my books or a character or ask about a sequel. Others share what’s happening in their lives. It’s great building those connections.

But over the years, I’ve found myself signing up for numerous mailing lists — to receive a free download on the latest marketing trends for creators, or when registering for a webinar, or to be notified of upcoming book deals.

Next thing I knew, my inbox was exploding every day. More and more new messages arriving, and staying there for days (more like weeks) unread. I’d tell myself I’d eventually read them, but I only ever ended up deleting them.

About a month ago, in conjunction with my ‘purging’ of social media, I decided to cleanup my mailing list subscriptions. What’s the point of being on a mailing list if, deep down, I have no intention of reading the content or engaging with it? [Read more…] about Reset: Cleaning Up My Inbox

Filed Under: Writing Life Tagged With: deep work, mailing list, stay focused, writing life

Stepping Back (Again) from Social Media

May 26, 2022 by Marcus 3 Comments

It takes discipline not to let social media steal your time.
— Alex Ohanian

As a writer with a day job — and getting older — I am thinking more about how I spend my time. Writing a book isn’t easy, and it involves a huge time commitment. For me, it means getting up in the middle of the night to write before heading to work. That generally means that in the evening I’m too mentally exhausted to write.

A few weeks ago, I spent a couple of weeks monitoring my daily screen time. I was flabbergasted by what I learned about myself. Some days I’d watch a show/movie on Prime Video, play a game, check in on social media, and/or catch up on news headlines (especially after Russia’s invasion of Ukraine). There were weeks when my screen time averaged 9 hours (or, sadly, more) a day. During that period, I had one utterly unfocused, unproductive day when I spent more than 14 hours using my phone. Scary! [Read more…] about Stepping Back (Again) from Social Media

Filed Under: Writing Life Tagged With: deep work, digital minimalism, social media, writing life

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